RABBIT HOLE A-
USA (91 mi) 2010 d: John Cameron Mitchell
USA (91 mi) 2010 d: John Cameron Mitchell
Any movie featuring Dianne Wiest these days is definitely worth
seeing, as she makes rare screen appearances and has simply become one of the
more openhearted actresses whose captivating warmth is unlike anyone else, as
opposed to Nicole Kidman who has taken on empty-hearted, angry and hateful
roles, characters that retreat into the comfort zone of grief and self-centeredness
so they no longer give a damn about anyone else, where tragedy is her excuse to
behave so badly. Based on a Tony Award
and Pulitzer prize-winning play by David Lindsay-Abaire, there is already a
structure in place here, where a married couple, Becca (Nicole Kidman) and
Howie (Aaron Eckhart) find themselves in the throes of grief after losing their
4-year old son in an unfortunate car accident when he chased the family dog
into the middle of the street. By the
time we meet them, the characters have retreated into a disturbing sense of
isolation and feelings are already compartmentalized, where characters are
under extreme emotional duress expressed by their failed attempts at self
control, where occasionally extremely hurtful and inappropriate comments would
blurt out, usually in the presence of their family, including Becca’s kindhearted
mother (Dianne Wiest) and hard-edged sister (Tammy Blanchard) who announces
she’s pregnant. So life goes on, with or
without them.
While they live on an idealized lakefront home with plenty
of glass windows, this is an emotionally austere drama filled with gaping
silences, where the couple is so over-defensive that every word and thought is
misunderstood or somehow a reference to their lost son, where there’s no chance
whatsoever that they could talk about it.
When they go to a grieving family support group, Becca mocks how
ridiculous it all is, offering ingratiatingly phony comfort when there’s simply
none to be had, the exact view she takes with her mother who sympathizes with
Becca, as she lost a 30-year old son to drug addiction. But Becca wants no sympathy or support, as
she has no quick fix solutions, but finds it’s better to grieve and be unhappy,
irrespective how others feel about it.
Howie, for instance, feels ready to try to move on, not to plummet to
some undefined abyss of despair where there’s no way out, but Becca will have
none of it. Her grief is her life, and
she’ll allow no one to stand in her way.
In this manner, she’s become another fiercely contemptible character
that Kidman associates herself with these days, older and more hurtful roles,
like MARGOT AT THE WEDDING (2007), where she becomes monstrous. Her mother and sister take refuge in each
other, as they build a line of defense against Becca, who is constantly in
attack mode. Every time her mother
attempts to soften the blows and provide a mother’s nurturing love, Becca hurls
abusive invectives with the ease of a sailor’s profanity.
There is a wonderful twist in the story that becomes the
best part of the film, where something finally captures Becca’s interest and
she’s not so surly all the time, where we finally see a softer side that is
remarkably poignant and sensitive. It’s
as if she’s discovered her own support group that she’s forced to keep secret
from her husband. At the same time,
Howie has discovered other women are interested in him, providing comfort in
areas Becca is just not yet ready to deal with yet, remaining sexually frozen
in time, afraid to ever feel again.
Their emotional flight from one another becomes a personal road of salvation
for each, which is a very fragile and delicate thing, as both continue to avoid
one another while secretly seeking comfort in their own ways. It’s here that the delicate music by Anton
Sanko plays such a key role, as there’s finally something brewing underneath
the emotional fireworks that continue to gnaw at their lives. The film is restrained and movingly directed, shot
unfortunately on digital, but also superbly edited, with segments cut into small
fragments of life, ordinary moments that resemble our own lives, never
overreaching or creating a distance between the audience. Instead, this is a film of inclusion, where
after repeatedly being kept out by the incendiary emotional trauma, the
audience is finally allowed back into the center of the picture, where this
family is no different from our own, and it’s the human condition that finally
brings us all back together again inhabiting the same space. This is an edgy and painful journey of
redemption exposing shattered pieces of the human soul, perhaps reminiscent of
the transcending sadness in Atom Egoyan’s The Sweet Hereafter (1997), where by
the end no one feels quite the same as when they began the journey.